Since time immemorial, all over the world, there has been one quest and that is the quest for coping with anger. I firmly believe that optimum lifestyle intervention or mind-body interventions are the only methods available today to cope with Anger. Each component of the word Anger can be represented as A-Agitation, N-Negativity, G-Grief, E-Enmity (Hostility) and R-Revenge. (When transformed, then Anger gets represented by A-Agility, N-Nobility, G-Gratitude, E-Efficiency and Excellence and R-Respect and Reverence.)
Anger is defined as a negative physical, mental, emotional, psychological and environmental response (expressing poison) to any negative stressful situation. If not managed well, it may be disastrous and fatal not only for an individual, but for a family, community, society or nation.
Mismanaged anger and rage are the major causes of conflict in our personal and professional relationships, which ultimately lead to diseases such as heart attack, high blood pressure, stroke, etc. As we all know, heart attacks are one of the most common causes of death. This is why you may find it to be worth your time to learn CPR at a place like Coast2Coast in Toronto.
Is Anger Management Necessary?
Anger management is necessary to have optimum health. Even one fit of anger may precipitate a heart attack, an episode of angina, an episode of significant high blood pressure, stroke or paralysis, palpitation, restlessness, sleeplessness, hyperacidity, and a breach in relationship. It is, therefore, necessary that we must adopt all the techniques to manage anger in such a manner that it has no deleterious effect on our system.
Managing anger is therefore essential for optimal integration of various components of health, which is defined by the World Health Organization as a state of physical, mental, social, spiritual and environmental well-being and not merely the absence of disease. Thus, health from the mind-body perspective or Ayurvedic standpoint is an optimal integration of body, mind, spirit, soul and environment. Environment is our extended body. You and I are the expressions, manifestations, or the products of interaction between the microcosm, what we call as internal environment, and the macrocosm, what we call as external environment. There is a Vedic expression, which says, “Yatha pinda, tatha brahmaanda.”
“As is the atom, so is the universe,
As is the microcosm, so is the macrocosm,
As is the universal body, so is the cosmic body,
As is the universal mind, so is the cosmic mind,
As is the universal love, so is the cosmic love.”
We have sixty trillion cells in our body and six trillion chemical reactions are occurring every second in accordance with the laws of nature. We are not even aware of it. Thus, this whole universe or external environment is like a cosmic computer and these cells act like the terminal of the cosmic computer. Who then is the programmer? The programmer is our mind. Our mind is an expression of the cosmic mind and our energy is an expression of the cosmic energy. Perfect mindset is responsible for perfect health and imperfect mindset is responsible for anger and disease. Every bit of the universe is in us and every bit of us is in the universe. We are the holographic expression of the entire universe and vice versa.
Every thought that I think, every word that I utter with anger has tremendous negative influence on my system. There is an ancient saying, which says, “If you want to know what your thoughts or emotions of anger were in the past, look at your body today. And if you want to know what your body will be in the future, look at your thoughts or emotions of anger today.” Thus, the emotion of anger is an expression of our own perceptions, our own thoughts, our own interpretations, our own experiences, and our own choices. Thus, the emotion of anger is not a matter of chance, but it is a matter of choice.
I firmly believe that there are two predominant emotions in human beings. One is the emotion of fear and the other is the emotion of love. From the emotion of fear originates jealousy, hate, negative competition, anger, hostility, irritability, cynicism, violence, vengeance, clash or negative competition between two opposing forces, etc. The opposing forces may be in the same individual as fight between mind and intellect or two individuals such as mother-in-law and daughter-inlaw, nagging spouse or partner, two communities, two societies, two nations, etc. The most common causes of conflict are lack of communication, miscommunication or no communication, lack of understanding, misunderstanding, and other negative emotions, ultimately giving rise to a “fit of anger.”
From the emotion of love originates compassion, humility, altruism, magnanimity, empathy, sympathy, peace, harmony, helpfulness, faith, confidence, forgiveness, etc.
Anatomy and Physiology of Anger
Now, if we analyze the anatomy and physiology of anger, it has been well documented that one fit of anger may stimulate the brain, which in turn stimulates adrenal glands, thereby liberating jittery chemical molecules such as adrenaline, noradrenalin and cortisol. These chemicals are responsible for increase in heart rate (palpitation), irregularity of heart rhythm (arrhythmia), increase in blood pressure, increase in breathing rate, enhanced clotting mechanism, and spasm of coronary artery giving rise to angina, heart attack, sudden cardiac death and even stroke or paralysis. It may reduce blood flow to the extremities, increase tenseness in the muscles, increase sweating, nervousness, tremulousness, confusion, difficulty in decision making, burning in the stomach due to hyperacidity or stress-induced ulcers in the stomach, irritable bowel syndrome, premenstrual and post menstrual tension, post menopausal syndrome, recurrent apthous ulcers in the oral cavity, recurrent infections and even cancers can occur.
What are we doing? Where are we going? Anger or happiness, we can’t have both. What Do We Feel When We Become Angry? We feel fearful, frustrated with negativity and cynicism, hostile, irritable, arrogant, insecure, vindictive, vengeant, jealous, hateful, violent, guilty, etc. On the physical level, we feel palpitation, heaviness in head, high blood pressure, tremulousness, sweating, fast breathing, increased skin and muscle resistance, restlessness and sleeplessness.
What Do Others Feel When We Become Angry?
They feel stressed, tense and hurt and may also get palpitation, high blood pressure, restless, irritable, nervous and sleepless.
What Precipitates Anger?
Negative emotions as mentioned earlier, when we are tired, over worked and frustrated. Mahatma Gandhi once said, “My religion is truth and non-violence and non-anger.”
Classification of Anger
Anger can be classified into two types: 1) Righteous Anger and 2) Unjustified Anger. Righteous anger is one which is not long-lasting, it is superficial, and it does not change the body’s biochemistry. It is positive and creative. For example, parents and teachers have to have righteous anger at times with their children to maintain discipline. Similarly, an employer may have righteous anger with an employee in the organization to enhance productivity. Righteous anger is always without any selfish motive. It has its roots in self-referral and not objectreferral. On the other hand, unjustified anger is a long-lasting anger; it changes the biochemistry, and is always with a selfish motive, an egocentric mind and object-referral.
Anger can also be classified into:
Rage: It is an expression of violent anger, usually destructive. It is a reactionary response to any situation (problem), such as throwing around objects or breaking things into pieces.
Repression (Resentment): It is suppression of anger and directing it inwards. This is also harmful.
Indignation: It is controlled and positive anger such as righteous anger as explained above.
It can also be classified into:
Effective – this is healthy and positive.
Ineffective – this is sarcastic, hurting, insulting and violent.
Lord Krishna, in the Bhagavad Gita said, “Lust, anger, greed, attachment and ego are the five gates to hell.” He explained about the process of anger and its consequences as follows:
In human beings, from thought of sense objects rises attachment
From attachment rises desire
From desire rises anger
From anger rises delusion
From delusion rises loss of memory
From loss of memory rises loss of discrimination
From the loss of discrimination rises destruction of man.
There is a story of a poisonous snake that used to bite innocent people and kill them. The Lord appeared and gave him a divine mantra not to bite anybody. Some mischievous boys came one day and tried to kill him. The snake tried to save himself, but was badly injured. One year later the Lord appeared and was shocked to see the condition of the snake. When asked, the snake said, “I have not bitten anybody for last one year and come out only in the night to eat fallen fruits and leaves.” Then the Lord said, “I told you not to bite, but I never told you not to hiss.” This is a great lesson for all of us. In order to survive, we have to show our anger at times, but in a controlled manner.
Anger – Mind Body Linkages: Anger stimulates the autonomic (sympathetic) nervous system directly or indirectly. Anger has its links with negative emotions and unjustified anger can create havoc with our physical body, psychological body, emotional body, social body and environmental body.
Anger and Heart: It has been well documented in a study from Johns Hopkins University by P. P. Chang who studied 1000 men between the ages of 30 to 58 years and examined their incidence of premature heart attack with anger responses to stress during early adult life. The study indicated that angry individuals have three times higher risk of a heart attack below the age of 55 and six times more risk of a heart attack after the age of 55. A fit of anger can produce a massive heart attack by rupture of atheroscleotic plaque, increased tendency for clot formation, spasm in the coronary arteries, palpitation, high blood pressure, unstable angina, even sudden cardiac death (by ventricular tachycardia and ventricular fibrillation). Even strokes can be precipitated with anger.
Unjustified anger is like an uncontrolled fire and creates a chain reaction. Anger is short-lasting madness. It is like an expression of poison, creating negativity all around.
When the boss is angry with the subordinate, then the subordinate becomes angry with his spouse and the spouse becomes angry with the children and the children become angry with their friends or at school. This is a chain reaction.
Anger management is possible in the following ways:
Short Term Management
Long Term Management
Short Term Management
Anger exists in the mind and is the direct result of our thoughts. An event does not make you angry, but your interpretation of the event, of how you feel and think about it can lead to anger.
- Avoid haste – it is the most common factor leading to anger.
- Avoid occasions which produce anger.
- Never be in a hurry.
- Have time management and self-management.
- Go for your work quietly, lovingly and gently.
- Keep your mouth shut and lips sealed, whenever you start feeing angry.
- Recite spiritual words such as OM. The sacred words will keep you relaxed.
- Take a few deep breaths evenly and deeply.
- Count up to a 100.
- Go for a brisk walk.
- Drink a glass of water, when you start feeling angry.
- Wash your face or take a quick bath.
- Divert your attention by listening to music.
- Change the topic of discussion, if it is anger-provoking.
Long Term Management
- Drink two glasses of water daily on an empty stomach on getting up in the morning.
- Exercise daily for 30 minutes.
- Do not smoke or chew tobacco.
- Meditate for 20 minutes in the morning and evening.
- Maintain optimum body weight.
- Take a body massage daily for 5 minutes (Abhyanga or self-massage).
- Eat the right food, at the right time, at the right place, in the right manner, in the right quantity, in the right environment.
- Have sattvic vegetarian food.
- Eat more natural foods such as vegetables, fruits, salads and nuts.
- Do not eat junk food such as fried food or sweets, etc.
- Avoid a “pot-belly” abdomen.
- Avoid unaccustomed exercise.
- Remain cholesterol-fit.
- Remain balanced in life.
- Have adequate rest for 6-8 hours every night.
- Don’t burn both ends of the candle at the same time.
- Avoid lust, anger, greed, ego and attachment.
- Be honest, truthful and dedicated to work.
- Have a good social support system.
- Work with self-referral and not with object-referral.
- Have perfect choices to achieve any goal in a very peaceful manner.
- Develop intimate relationships.
- Become an embodiment of positive emotions such as love, compassion, humility, faith, confidence, peace, harmony, bliss and happiness.
- Set a daily routine and set weekly, monthly and yearly plans.
- Take antioxidants.
- Be non-judgmental.
- Do not criticize and do not get influenced by criticism.
- Hate no one.
- Love everyone.
Maitreya Upanishad says, “There is something beyond the mind, which is silence It is the supreme mystery, beyond the thought Let our mind and our subtle body rest upon that and that alone That’s what love is, if we want to get rid of anger.”