Feng Shui Tips for Finding Love

PANDIT GOPAL SHARMA

Feng Shui, the Chinese art of positioning objects in buildings to encourage entry of positive energy, has emerged as a powerful tool to bring quick and assured changes in our lives. Today, it is widely used to recreate new life, smooth relationships, balance daily life, and bring energy to the house. Feng Shui is also very effective in activating romance, luck and a love-filled life. In the present age when relationships are often tenuous, people are increasingly taking the help of Feng Shui masters to improve their love life, strengthen marriages, infuse passion in their relationships.

Make sure you have two matching nightstands on either side of your bed. You should set up the room as though this special person is already living with you.

Intention

The first rule is to address your intention and desire to bring in a new soul mate. Visualize what characteristics you would like in your future partner. Everything in our world is started by a thought. So be positive, happy and energetic while preparing your space, and think only of the wonderful person that will soon enter your life. Then write the attributes of your new love on a piece of paper. Be very specific. Focus on the traits you would like in a mate (not the superficial qualities such as looks). When you are done, fold the paper and place it in a beautiful box and put it on your nightstand. Remember, where your intention goes, a relationship will grow.

Avoid Clutter

Look at your bedroom objectively and remove every bit of unwanted clutter. The less stuff you have on the floor and under your bed, the better it is for you. Boxes, magazines, newspapers, clothes, etc. should all be picked up and removed, so that chi or life force energy can circulate freely around your bedroom. Your bedroom should be able to breathe. It needs to look and feel fresh, clean and uncluttered.

Number 2

The Number 2 is very important when inviting romance into your life. Make sure you have two matching nightstands on either side of your bed. You should set up the room as though this special person is already living with you. By doing this, you are making it extremely easy for them to step into your world. Matching lamps on each side of the bed are also very important. Having a set of small or large statues, depicting romance, is a wonderful and powerful visual reminder of the type of energy you want to surround yourself with. Classic Feng Shui symbols of romance are: a pair of lovebirds, two dolphins, two hearts, or a pair of Mandarin Ducks. Mandarin Ducks form a strong attachment to their partners and are said to pine away and die. Hence, they are also an emblem of conjugal fidelity. You can also use a beautiful pair of candlesticks with white, pink or red candles to help cultivate romance. Anything in a pair of “two’s” is perfect for your bedroom.

Activate Southwest Corner

For love to blossom in your life you must activate the Southwest corner of your home, the universal corner of romance. This corner of any home or room represents romance, love and marriage. If this corner has good Feng Shui, then marriage and love aspirations of the household members will be positively energized.

If this corner has bad Feng Shui, then there might be unhappiness in love and relationships, thus leading to divorce, loneliness, and an almost total absence of marriage opportunities for the children of the family.

1. The element of the Southwest corner is earth, symbolized by crystals, stones, boulders, and all things from the ground. Identifying the relevant element to activate is a vital part of the application. It suggests that placing, for instance,a boulder in the Southwest corner of the garden will activate excellent romance and marriage opportunities for all the unattached residents of the house.

2. Earth is produced by fire, so fire is said to be good for it.

3. Earth itself produces metal, so metal is said to exhaust it.

4. Earth is destroyed by wood, so wood is said to be harmful to it.

5. Earth destroys water, so it is said to overcome water.

From these attributes we know that to strengthen the element of the Southwest, we can use objects that symbolize both the earth and fire elements, but we should avoid the wood element.

Energizing the Earth Element: In Feng Shui each of the five elements are activated when objects belonging to it are present. One of the best objects used to energize the earth element of the Southwest romance corner is crystal, especially natural quartz crystal dug up from the earth. Raw amethyst, rose quartz, or other natural crystals will be extremely harmonious with the Southwest sector. In addition, other minerals and metals from the earth are effective, although the energies created by the display of crystals is particularly positive. If you like, you can also use artificial man made crystals, which may be paperweights or even good fortune symbols fashioned out of crystal and displayed on your table top.

For love to blossom in your life you must activate the Southwest corner of your home, the universal corner of romance. This corner of any home or room represents romance, love and marriage.

Large, round decorative earthenware jars and pots are excellent for the Southwestern corners of rooms. Place peacock feathers, artificial silk flowers, or, freshly cut flowers inside these jars. Do not display dried or dead flowers or plants, not even decorative driftwood. Dead wood and dried plants signify the death of a romantic relationship.

Applying the theory of the productive cycle of elements, we also note that fire produces earth, so features with the fire element can also activate the Southwest to energize marriage and relationship luck. For the Chinese, the color red, which is the fire element, represents happiness, festivities and celebrations. This is evident at weddings, where the bride always wears red. Lights are another potent Feng Shui tool that represent the fire element and can be used to manipulate the balance of elements. Always ensure that there is a bright light in the Southwest corner. Keeping the corner well-lit prevents the energies from getting stale, and thus favorable chi will never become stagnant.

Art

Art is very important in Feng Shui. Having pictures in your bedroom that instill visions of romance are a perfect addition to your bedroom. Please avoid any pictures or paintings of single men or women. You are looking to attract a mate, not stay solo. Remove any pictures of turbulent weather, single boats, or places that look lonely or destitute. Make sure everything in this room is calm and serene. If you have not already done so, take down and store photographs of old boyfriends or girlfriends. Photos of children and other family members are also discouraged in your bedroom. They are fine anywhere else in the house; but this is your inner sanctum, and you want to invite love into your life, not a family reunion.

Color

Color is another tool that Feng Shui employs to set the tone and mood of what you want to accomplish. To attract love and romance, pink, peach or pastel red sheets will do the trick.

Bedroom

The most important item in your bedroom is your bed. Remember, it is the second most influential item in your life according to Feng Shui. There are many Feng Shui principles for the most auspicious (favorable) positioning of your bed.

They are as follows:

1. The bed should not be in direct line with the path of the doorway. This is called the “Coffin” position, and should be avoided at all costs.

2. The bed should be placed as far away from the doorway as possible.

3. The bed should never be placed under or against a window, door or closet. Instead, it should have a strong, solid headboard, and it should be securely positioned against a wall.

4. A slanted ceiling or beam over the bed will cut into your relationship. Using bamboo flutes, pyramids, paper decorations can reduce the impact to a great extent.

5. Though the next Feng Shui rule is difficult for most people to implement, yet it is extremely important and effective. All electrical and distracting items need to be removed from your bedroom. No exceptions! You need to create a tranquil, loving atmosphere that is conducive to only sleep and romance. Multimedia centers are welcome elsewhere in the house. Here is the list of items that need to be removed from your bedroom:

Color is another tool that Feng Shui employs to set the tone and mood of what you want to accomplish. To attract love and romance, pink, peach or pastel red sheets will do the trick.

1. All phones, faxes and answering machines.
2. Television sets, stereos and entertainment centers.
3. Bookshelves, piles of newspapers and magazines.
4. Bills and paperwork.
5. Computers and printers.

Finally, if your bed has had a good life and is ready to retire, let it do so. As a matter of fact, a great way to jump start a new relationship is to buy a new bed that does not have any negative past history. By clearing out the old, unwanted items in your bedroom, you are making space for that special person to enter your life. Remember to do so with love in your heart.

Additional Feng Shui for Enhancing Love

  • The peony flower plays a very important part in Chinese Feng Shui and you should keep peonies in your bedroom.
  • Use yellow, white and red lights to brighten up the Southwestern corners of your house to attract romantic energy.
  • A toilet in the Southwest corner can have a very negative impact on your love life. To reduce the negative effect, please do the following:

1. Put three pyramids on the frame of the toilet door.

2. The threshold should be at the lower portion of the toilet door.

3. Paint the threshold in yellow.

4. Keep a ceramic/crystal bowl filled with sea salt and change it every week.

Use yellow, white and red lights to brighten up the Southwest corners of your house to attract romantic energy.

  • Hanging a painting of high mountains in the Southwest corner creates powerful chi of the big earth and helps in attracting a suitable life partner.
  • On a window in the Southwest corner, hang a faceted crystal ball to capture the sunlight and create chi rainbows.
  • Place two candles in a bowl filled with small crystals to activate the Southwest corner.
  • Place a crystal heart inside a velvet pouch, and place it inside a night table to enhance feelings of love between you and your partner.
  • Keep water features, water bowls and aquariums out of the bedroom as they can lead to distraction.
  • Never place plants with thorns in the Southwest corner.
  • If a mirror directly reflects the bed, it can attract unwanted third parties.
  • In order to create smooth love chi between the partners, place red love knots on pictures of the two of you together.
  • Don’t give roses with thorns, remove the thorns first.
  • Yellow flowers are for those seeking a serious relationship and white flowers are good for mature people in love.
More Stories
“Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better.” -Albert Einstein